Why I Think Dating Apps Suck Even More Than Before

If you’re anything like me, you’ve cycled through the regular dating apps: Match.com, eHarmony, Tinder and even Bumble.  I got tired of seeing the same guys over and over (in addition to friends and people I know personally), so I thought I’d take it “up a notch” and try some of the more exclusive apps, which require approval to get in.  I wanted to meet different men.  I signed up for both Inner Circle as well as The League.  I was accepted almost immediately into both of them, and my online dating experience was re-energized. Or so I thought.

In the past, my experience was more about filtering out the guys who were just looking for casual hookups (and of course, doing my best to avoid drug dealers, which has indeed proven difficult, especially when said dating prospect poses as someone seemingly professional for a period of time. I even had one go out of his way to wear a golf shirt on the first meet, and nice button downs on several of the following dates.  He seemed legit, but this eventually turned into old stained t-shirts and flip flops after a simultaneous reveal of a bong collection, accidentally-left-out Ziplocs of coke and a stack of after-hours nude club discount cards. But I digress.) I truly thought that I’d be connecting with men of a higher caliber on these brand new apps.

Instead, I discovered a new kind of challenge.  Case: Hot guy, early 30’s.  Sent some nice messages back and forth. Professional job.  Lives in suburbs (about 45 minutes away from me, which I thought might be an issue, but I went for it anyway, thinking we could try for a weekend).  I give him my number, and we text back and forth, trying to find a time to set up a date.  He kept asking if I’d be in his area, which I wouldn’t be.  I never, ever have work or projects in his area.  And if you know Los Angeles, you know it takes at least an hour to get anywhere.  So I asked if he could come closer to me, and he said “yeah, I think so”, but then we couldn’t seem to align schedules.  He’d text again a few days later, asking if I’d be out his way at all.  I thought, is this guy for real?  Didn’t I already tell him I’m never in his area, for any reason? Also, isn’t it standard for a guy to drive to the girl’s area for the first date anyway?  Red flag.  Of course, he texted a few cute photos of himself, so I look past the flag and continue.  Our schedules still didn’t seem to mesh however, and the merry go round continued.  For a few weeks.  Yes, weeks.

One day during an exchange, I realized that he never actually called me to talk. I don’t know about you, but I feel weird when I’m getting to know someone solely via text.  I need to hear a voice and vibe.  As I thought through this, I also realized that my schedule was getting out of hand.  I had booked a few projects in this time period, and I just knew that dating someone so far away would prove difficult beyond even one date.  I decided I didn’t want to play the cat and mouse game.  The next time I received his now regular (and a bit too casual) “hey you” text, I replied and kindly expressed, “obviously it’s been really tough for us to connect, and I’ve suddenly become super busy, so I need to put dating on the back burner for a bit. I’m sorry, but I wish you luck out there in the big, bad world of dating!”  His response:  “I have to be totally honest.  I am not really looking to date anyway.  I just wanted to pick your brain about starting a podcast.  What’s your schedule this weekend?”.  My jaw dropped. He had been flirting and sending photos all this time, acting all chummy, and then pulls the curtain to showcase his agenda to learn how to start a frigging podcast?  And, he was hoping I’d somehow drive out to his area to help him. What in the hell?  I probably would’ve ended up with the bill too, now that I think about it.  What a waste.  He may as well have been a drug dealer at this point.

Oh yes, things were taken up a notch indeed with my new dating apps!  Ha! Now, instead of using chicks for sex, men seemed to be trolling the apps to see which ones could help them with their professional pursuits or hobbies.  Awesome.

Back to organic dating I go.  My long-term relationships have always been men I’ve met through professional work or a mutual interest.  I’ve never met a great guy in a bar or on a dating app.  Ever.  If you’re someone who has, I applaud you, because in my experience, it’s simply not possible.  At least not for a long-term, happy relationship that ends in good feelings and friendship, which my long-terms have.  Almost all of my dating app relationships have resulted in blocking.  I have to chuckle at this realization.  It’s kind of absurd, when the purpose is to find love, not disgust.

All in all, I can’t say I’m a fan of dating apps.  What has been your experience with them?  Reach out to me at michelle@ladyfoxentertainment.com with your thoughts and musings, and I’m sure I can find an appropriate pod guest to discuss further.  In the meantime, good luck out there if you choose to participate in the dating app game!

 

Want Nothing Off Limits – The Cool Sh*t Your Momma Never Taught You – To Get Even Better?

There’s a lot of cool sh*t my momma never taught me, but one thing she did teach me is that you won’t get anything unless you ask for it.  The worse someone can say is “no”!  So here goes.

Since I created the concept of Nothing Off Limits in December 2015, I’ve been working extremely hard creating content for it, sometimes 15-18 hours a day.  This is far from being a hobby!  After months of finding and interviewing guests, covering legal aspects such as guest releases, getting Ladyfox Entertainment, LLC off the ground, and sharpening my vision for the podcast, I finally launched on June 6th!  Downloads/listens have been amazing so far, and I even grabbed some press about it on Yahoo! Finance yesterday.  Cool, right?  Yes!!

http://finance.yahoo.com/news/ladyfox-entertainment-launches-nothing-off-123000082.html

Now, the next step is to support the expansion of the podcast by doing advertising campaigns and creating video content to cast a net out to a wider potential listener audience and increase the podcast’s discoverability.  By having a greater presence online, I can land even more well-known guests, create more awareness for the messages the guests are sharing, attract bigger brands to feature on the show, grab additional and better equipment and space to start doing in-person interviews (and perhaps on-camera too), and just generally take the production to the next level.

Before I do a Kickstarter or Indiegogo campaign, I want to start with the people who are already excited about what I’m doing, right now, and that’s YOU.  Would you, my friends, consider making a donation to support the podcast production?  Every amount will help, and as a thank you, I’ll send you some NOL swag and personally thank you on an upcoming episode.

To donate, please go to:

www.ladyfoxentertainment.com/resourcespartners/ and click on the Paypal donate button!

I offer my heartfelt gratitude in advance, and please send your feedback on the shows so far to michelle@ladyfoxentertainment.com

Xoxoxox,

MAO

Ladyfox Entertainment is underway!

Well, Happy 2016 Everyone!

I was a little lax on the blog entries in Q4, but I’m back.  I was kinda busy!  I launched my new company, Ladyfox Entertainment, LLC.  I can’t express my level of excitement about my new journey as a small business owner.  Check out my new logo (above), thanks to the ever-talented Vitor Bonates! http://vitorbonatesdesign.com (You may also notice that Vitor crafted my MAO and Lady Evil logos from earlier in 2015.  He’s also the artist behind the backdrop photo on my website landing page.  Needless to say, he’s an amazing talent to collaborate with!)

This year via Ladyfox Entertainment, I’ll be continuing to grow my voiceover business and music work, but I’m especially excited about launching my very own podcast this Spring.

As some of you may know, over the last 2 years, I’ve been interviewing guests (both professional and off-the-street) about dating, relationships, sex and health, all for an online marketing company called Altare.  I’ve been proud to handle all aspects of hosting and podcast audio production, and I gotta say, I love the job!  I’ve learned more than I ever imagined by interviewing people from all walks of life, and I’ve found my personal groove with this medium.  The content I produce for Altare is not available publicly, so I decided that I’m going to throw some content of my own out into the universe.  I want to share my passion for learning new things with as many people as I can. Specific details are to come on my new, edgy podcast series, which is slated for launch in March on iTunes.  I promise, you will be entertained and educated at the same time!  Stay tuned for more.

In the meantime, feel free to reach out and share your 2016 goals, hopes & dreams!

Much love, thanks for reading, and go get ’em!

xoxo,

MAO